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Anger Revisited!

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What is Anger?


Anger is a natural human emotion that can be used as a powerful survival tool in dangerous or threatening situations. When used in the right context, it can help us stay alive, high adrenaline triggers physiological reactions such as raised heartbeat and palpitations preparing us for action, helping us fight or flee from the situation.

In the primitive days this was our only source of emotion used to protect us from wild animal preditors. These days we use mounted anger when we feel threatened by other human beings, whether it is a real life threatening situation or in disputes with others.

When something/someone is affecting our sense of safety, we may notice anger before any other emotion, but it may be useful to know that anger is a secondary emotion and we often feel something else immediately before the angry emotion kicks in.

How can anger affect us?


Mounted anger can present itself in many ways, prolonged or repressed anger can lead to physiological and psychological health problems such as depression, high blood pressure, poor immune system and anxiety and other serious health risks

High levels of anger can cause us to behave agressively and negatively, impacting our relationships (professional or personal) and the choices we make at that moment.

Identifying signs and symptoms before it escalates

When we get angry we all too often describe feeling out of control..."I just lost it"...."once I felt angry there was no stopping me"..."I just saw red". You may feel that your anger reaches the explosive stage immediately without warning. If you vent your anger regularly, you may feel that there is no warning to when it will happen next and will reach its peak immediately. Although, it may only be a few minutes, there are cues that alert you of your anger before it escalates.

Learn to listen out for body sensations:  When you start to feel angry your breathing may change, you may start to feel hot, your chest feels tight or muscles feel tense.

What's your behaviour telling you?  You may start to feel restless, your tone of voice changes, clenching your fists or jaw or you might go quiet (the silence before the storm), sometimes others can detect when you are feeling angry just by looking at changes in your behaviour.

What's underneath? Just before we get angry there is another feeling that emerges beforehand, this may be a vulnerable, unworthy, disrepected, humiliated feeling when the underlining feeling is too painful to deal with we might mask this with anger, not only will our primary emotions be undealt with our anger may escalate and cause further pain to us and others.

The little voice inside of us: This is what we may use to make sense of a situation, For example: Having a disagreement with someone and feeling unheard or misunderstood you may then interprate the situation as "I'm not worth being listened too, "this person doesn't care about me" "I'm useless" ... as we feed ourselves with these beliefs about the situation we may then try to fight it and end up exploding in defence of these inner voices.

Identifying our cues can help us deal with our angermore  productively before it escalates.


 How can anger management and counselling help?


  • Understand the core causes of your anger
  • Identify primary emotions that lead to anger
  • Increase self awareness on triggers
  • Develop coping strategies (immediate and preventitive) 
  • Improve communication and ways to be heard
  • Learn ways to use anger productively

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